Same Sex Marriage, why the two will never be one

The Word of God is alive and active. Sharper than any double-edged sword, it penetrates even to dividing soul and spirit, joints and marrow; it judges the thoughts and attitudes of the heart. Nothing in all creation is hidden from God’s sight.  Everything is uncovered and laid bare before the eyes of him to whom we must give account.  Hebrews 4:12-13

Why is marriage between one man and one woman?  Same sex marriage and the church is a widely debated topic, and certainly one that many people are confused about.  It is easy to be swayed by the culture, and even by Christian leaders who have embraced the idea that not only is God OK with same sex marriage, His word says either “nothing about it”, or certain scriptures indicate that it is allowable in our present day culture.

Scripture says that Jesus Christ is the Word.  The Gospel of John begins with the words, “In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God.  He was with God in the beginning.  Through him all things were made; without him nothing was made.  In him was life, and that life was the light of men.  The light shines in the darkness, but the darkness has not understood it.”  John 1:1-5

Since Jesus Christ is present in scripture from the first verse of the Bible, to the last verse of the Bible, and He is called the Bridegroom, we need to look at marriage from God’s point of view, and put the whole thing together in the context of the big picture.

We have already read that Jesus was present at Creation.  Believing the Bible is true from the very first verse, and already stating John 1:1-5, let’s look at Genesis 1:26-28.  “Then God said, ‘Let us make man in our image, in our likeness, and let them rule over the fish and the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, over all the creatures that move along the ground.’ So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. God blessed them and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and over every living creature that moves on the ground.’”

So here it is the very beginning; the original hope, the original plan, the ultimate expression of God’s heart and the image of His very being, man and woman.

Let’s look at the dictionary definition of the word “image”: A physical likeness or form, a counterpart. ( I thought the word counterpart was unusual and intriguing, so I looked up the definition of counterpart, and here is what it said: One of two parts that fit, or complete the other.  The word counterpart is going to be significant, so stay with me.

Immediately after creating male and female in His image, God instructs the male and female to be “fruitful and increase in number.”  Now, we will need to take a look at more than just making babies here.  What I am about to say is going to get deep, and it is going to get technical, and maybe even a little PG-13.

First, we have to address that God is in need of nothing.  He is complete within himself.  Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. Deuteronomy 6:4. He is one God, the only God, and one within Himself, complete and whole, in complete Unity and Oneness He dwells, the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.

With God’s oneness the foundational truth, we put his creation of male and female into the understanding that they are made in His image, reflecting who God Himself is.  When looking at the male and female body and the beauty of God’s design, it is absolutely obvious that the two fit together, like pieces of a puzzle, creating one entity.  One fitting inside the other is a physical expression of God’s oneness.  Male and female bodies complete each other, and are counterparts to each other as the male body enters in and fits inside the female- “The man said, ‘This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, for she was taken out of man. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.” Genesis 2:23-24.  Adam and Eve, coming together as counterparts to each other, is the outward physical expression of oneness.  The God ordained sexual act experienced by man and wife is spiritual as well.  Before all the invitations, cake, gowns, ceremonies and I do’s, there was just man and woman and their creator God, and the physical act of becoming one flesh put them into sacred covenant with each other, and God blessed it.  He blessed it because one flesh, one completing the other, reflected His complete oneness.  Therefore we can conclude that the sexual act in the context of one man and one woman, one inside the other, reflects God’s Glory and who He is.  It sounds a little strange to say that, so let’s look further.

What is the significance of this “oneness”?

We have talked about oneness, and we have talked about the physical act of sex between a man and a woman.  The word “know” is used in scripture.  In Genesis, God uses the term “know” to mean sexual relations between Adam and his wife.  “Now Adam knew his wife Eve, and she conceived… Genesis 4:1.  The word to know or “yada” in Hebrew means deep, intimate knowledge of, and is the same word God uses throughout scripture between God and His people Israel.  They will know that I am the Lord their God, who brought them out of Egypt…Exodus 29:46.  God had established a deep covenant relationship with His people, setting them apart, and establishing Himself as their husband and they as His bride.  “’In that day, declares the Lord, you will call me ‘my husband’. I will betroth you to me forever; I will betroth you in righteousness and justice, in love and compassion.  I will betroth you in faithfulness, and you will acknowledge the Lord.” Hosea 3:16, 19-20.  These words and images are found often in God’s word in the Old Testament.

Before we move to oneness as seen in the New Testament, we must discuss what happened to the idea of oneness in Genesis.  Only three chapters into the word of God, we see the enemy’s ploy to tempt man and succeed in destroying the perfect oneness and completeness between Adam and Eve and their Creator God.  Man was driven from God’s presence, and sin entered the world and corrupted everything, including the covenant relationship of the physical union between man and woman.  Satan sought to destroy the very thing that reflected God’s Glory as the enemy cannot stand the thought of, or be in the presence of God’s Glory.  Now, Adam and Eve were ashamed of their nakedness, and from that moment on, the corruption of sin would permeate the world and every relationship that would ever come to be.

As previously stated, Christ was already in the picture as shown in the promise of Genesis 3:15, “And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspring and hers; he will crush your head, and you will strike his heal.”   Jesus is prophesied in this passage as crushing and defeating the enemy, and the way back into right relationship to God.

Oneness is challenged again in the Old Testament in the way of God’s people “prostituting themselves to Idols.” (Hosea 4:12) and the term “Adultery” being used over and over again when God’s people left their first love, the Lord their God, and ran after worthless idols. (See the Entire book of Hosea)  There can be no adultery if there is not first a betrothal, or marriage covenant relationship.  The terms “adultery” and “prostitution” are obviously involving a sexual relationship, and exist in the physical realm.  These terms are used in conjunction with idolatry, which exists in the spiritual realm.  Thus we see the connection between the two.  God’s people were uniting themselves in their hearts and spirits, taking the idols in, not in a physical sense, but spiritual.  They were becoming one with these evil things, instead of being one with the Lord. That is why in the book of Hosea, God describes a “spirit of prostitution” in Hosea 4:12 as we read, “A spirit of prostitution leads them astray; they are unfaithful to their God.”

We have now made the connection between what is experienced in the physical realm and what is experienced in the spiritual realm, and how God sees it as equally important.  The physical is your body, and the spiritual is your mind, heart, and soul or spirit.  This concept is important as we move into oneness in the New Testament.

The New Testament begins with Jesus Christ, born of a virgin, coming into the world to redeem the sins of man.  “The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him and said, ‘Look, the Lamb of God, who takes away the sins of the world!’” John 1:29.  John is also the one to declare Christ as the bridegroom. (See John 3:30) Thus, the covenant relationship in the spirit between the bride and bridegroom begins. (The bride being the church that is established after Jesus is crucified for our sins and three days later, resurrected.)

In discussing spiritual oneness, we again turn to its importance in the New Testament, and also for Christians today. Jesus is the bridegroom, and we take Him into our heart, in spiritual covenant relationship as our first love.  This oneness, this unity, is how the world will know who God is.

Before going to the cross, Jesus prayed this prayer: “Holy Father, protect them by the power of your name- the name you gave me-so that they may be one as we are one. My prayer is not for them alone.  I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you.  May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you sent me. I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: I in them and you in me. May they be brought into complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me” John 17: 11, 20-23

So we see oneness, unity, completeness declaring who God is and His love, clearly demonstrating to the world that Jesus is God’s son.  No wonder the enemy detests oneness.

The oneness, the completeness, the unity, the two shall become one flesh in covenant marriage, a physical connection of counterparts demonstrates for us who God is.  Through Christ, we move into a spiritual oneness, but God gave us the physical oneness to help us understand the concept of two becoming one. According to John 17, the power and unity of spiritual oneness reflects God’s glory and declares God’s son.

The Bible begins and ends with a marriage. The book of Revelation, the last book of the Bible, ends with Satan defeated, and the triumphant bridegroom, Jesus Christ, coming back for his bride, the church.  “Hallelujah!  For our Lord God almighty reigns.  Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory!  For the wedding of the Lamb has come, and his bride has made herself ready.  Fine linen, bright and clean, was given her to wear…” Revelation 19:6-8

Again we see the image of marriage, of a covenant relationship between bride and groom.  The bride is the church, and in Revelation, the bride is described as a city. The Bible says of this city, of this bride, “Nothing impure will ever enter it…” Rev 21”27. Once again, alluding back to a joining, an entering, a taking in, and this time, all things have been made new and this bride is set apart for eternity for Christ.  Christ and His counterpart, the church are one.

How does this relate back to same sex marriage?  Because same sex is only one half, and one half is not complete.  Jesus was present at creation, and male and female reflected God’s image in their completeness as they became one flesh.  Counterparts.  They were commanded to be fruitful and enjoy a sexual relationship that was sacred, created by God, blessed by God, and in its oneness, declare God’s glory.  One half can never be whole.

Therefore, it is no surprise why Satan is just fine with same sex marriage, but seeks to come against and destroy the very thing that shows the world that God sent His son and is coming back for His bride.

As we seek to draw near to God’s heart and ask Him for understanding in this matter, it is important in closing to note that in the midst of all the spiritual adultery and idolatry of the Old Testament, God used Hosea to marry a prostitute named Gomer and redeem her, to show that God still loved His bride.  Gomer’s name means “complete”.  What Hosea did for Gomer, Jesus has done for us.  Christ has redeemed us from our sins, and He has redeemed marriage from any sin that has ever come against it.  We must stand for the truth in God’s love, and fight for the things that reflect God’s glory and show the world who He is.

Regarding comments:  Since Christ is the Word, and Christ is alive, the word of God is alive.  The word never changes, it cannot be added to or taken away, but the reason the Bible can be studied for a lifetime is the fact that there are incredibly deep levels of understanding that can only come through a life yielded to Christ, and a personal relationship with Him.   The topic of same sex marriage from a Biblical perspective can only be truly understood by those who first know Christ.

~Geri Campbell

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